Plain Dumb!

To get upset is an understatement everytime I get to read articles in the printed media asking for young people to get married in their teens. One idiotic big shot even suggested that if getting these teenagers getting married early will prevent them from indulging in sin, it would be okay or should be encouraged. What type of idiotic, cronic and moronic thinking is this and how could a man of his position come up with such a notion? It is no wonder why our nation's leaders are the laughing stock of the nation and the world in general! They say the darnest and the most moronic thing ever! In the first place, these teenagers should not be having such notions  and secondly , they have a whole new future ahead of them and why should they be thinking of SEX & MARRIAGE at their age, moron! That is why I am saying it out loud that these days, it is children bearing children! If we condone such marriages, we are actually condoning further sin when marriages like this end up in the dumps, infidelity and divorce. By the way, just for information, the divorce rate for such couples are higher and on the rise while many also went unreported or supressed. Make no mistake about this. There are many factors causing such rise like insufficient financial stability, immature & unreadiness for responsibilities, unfulfilled life's desires and dreams, after "the magic" is gone feeling, stress of having children, lepak mentality, drug related problems, social interaction problems and many others.

Can you imagine a teenage mom eloping with another man? Well, if you can't imagine, please imagine it because there are many of such examples around! Can you imagine some teenage mom being someone else kept mistress or a teenage father having mistresses? Sometimes, I can't understand how a young teenage mom who had given birth to children could heartlessly abandoned her child and elope with another man. Look, like it or not, this is the culture that is in play in todays' society. It is rampant and it can be happening at our own backyard. This is not an overseas phenomenon (afterall, we all like to blame it on other people's culture thing! ) but it is a very real thing happening.

All I can say is that let us not be fools to allow such marriages which will only burden the parents as most parents will be funding the marriage and taking care of the couple for some time. This has become a "trend" in these young people who are the "hand-out" mentality generation. You may disagree with me in this matter but look around you. Do you see young teenage couples grapling the hands of their children or even carrying their babies with them as they walk around pasar malams and hawker centres? Do they really know their responsibility as parents to their children? How many young teenage parents do you know who still depended on their families support? How many young mothers and fathers do you see in our pubs, night clubhouses and even karaoke bars having a blast in the night without giving a two hoots about who will be taking care of their children? Many, right? I am not doubting that there are many who are responsible young parents and so on but I am speaking generally to those who have this "have fun first ; consequences later" mentality that needed attention. Like I said, I am not stereotyping every young parent into this category but I would like to see more responsible young parents in our midst.

My mom had one sweet advice on parenthood - If you cannot be a responsible parent , then , don't ever have children. I think, this is apt and precisely my point. Many times, these young ones are so emotional , deeply in the "puppy love" mode and "cloud nine" mode that their brains are virtually snuffed off or starved from the required oxygen to think wisely and logically. The consequences are dire and very real. Let us not encourage such teenage marriage for these young ones. YES, we all learn to be parents along the way through our experiences, hardship and good times and there is no special manual on parenthood or even a successful marriage. The thing is that we all would have a career , a stability that is required in building a relationship & family or even a strong will to stay faithful and true. Nowadays, these things are like dirty words to these young people! I know for the fact that our parents may have married at the age of 14, 15 or even 16 when they were younger but in those days, our father would have to work really hard to provide for us and by then our parents would be that age of being responsible. Mom used to joke that the milk powder plus the chap gantung ones and cow's milk ( more organic! ) those days were much better and potently good plus nutrituous! Nowadays, we only have cows!  This was a different breed of generation - the tenancious, the patient and the hardworking generation. In those days, a young mother could take care of 10 children but in these days, 10 children may not be able to take care of one mother, right?

So, in my considered opinion, I say NO to teenage marriage and whatever sockalingam plans these buffons of leaders devised! I will always say - let those raging hormones wait for a while longer; pick stability in the right foundation of finance, career, responsible mind set and good religious/teaching foundation anytime. Parents, don't be in a rush to sell off your responsibility of equipping your sons or daughters to the scheme of early marriage. We all have a responsible duty to equip our sons and daughters with the correct mindset and right path of life. Haphazard breeding will bring haphazard consequences.